Wednesday, July 6, 2011

Just My Two Cents Worth

Yesterday I was visiting my parents when my aunt and her boyfriend came up.  My aunt was talking about how they had just stopped by her son's house to visit, and he refused to let her in while her boyfriend, David, was with her.  From what my mom says, my aunt's son and daughter have no use for David because basically, David is stupid.  He doesn't have my aunt's best interests at heart.  He only cares about himself.  When my aunt has been battling cancer and needed to go into rehab at the local nursing home, David was the one to keep her from doing so.  My mom even said that David cursed out my aunt's daughter just because she was trying to help out her mother.  I don't know if it's just jealousy on his part...but just from what I know, he's stupid.  Literally.  He doesn't have much sense, at all.  And this brings me to my point.  Knowing that their mother is a sick lady, should her children keep their distance just because they have a problem with David?  Should they throw away this time with her just because they don't agree with her choice of a partner?  I don't know the whole situation.  I know it has to be hard for them to see David go against all that is good for their mother.  But, I don't think she is gonna give David the boot, either.  From her point of view, she has a companion in him...something her children cannot be because they have their own families.  Maybe they should just lay down some ground rules and stick to them instead of alienating their mother altogether.  I know that this is totally none of my business.  And, I would never say anything to them about it.  It's just an observation that I hope to learn from.  I think we should put aside differences for family so that there will not be regrets when it is too late to do anything about it.  Just my two cents worth...

2 comments:

bettyl said...

It's hard to know what to do even when we DO know what's going on!

I agree with you, Sandra, that something needs to be done and I hope they can work something out so that the kids get to see as much of Mom as they can. It's sad when everybody's not on the same page.

Iva said...

I've been in a similar situation, although not with a mom who was terminally sick. They have a choice - they either put up with David or they don't see their mother. It's really as simple as that.