Monday, February 23, 2009

Monday Memories: Letters To My Children #2

Welcome to installment #2 of Monday Memories: Letters to My Children. If you want to know more about how this posting got started read here. Feel free to grab my button on the left sidebar and link up your own letters. This letter is addressed to Chase (now 17). The boys would give me a hard time about going to bed. Their dad worked nights, so I had it all on my own. Sometimes it was a bit much for me to handle. I am not ashamed to say that I spanked my children. That is the way that my husband and I chose to punish our kids. We are not bad people because we raised our children this way. And, I must say that they have never been in any kind of serious trouble. They are bright kids who have turned out pretty good, if I say so myself! And now, without further ado I present my next letter:

January 29, 1994 12:00 midnight

Dear Chase,
You did it again. I had to spank you to get you to behave and go to sleep. I don't enjoy spanking and screaming at you, but I get tired of the same ol' stuff every night. You were calling Justin a "doodie head" and "butt hole." I warned you about a spanking,but you continued immediately thereafter. When you finally hushed I heard your routine of night phrases, "Night, night, Momma."

Me: Night. Night
You: Love you, too.
Me: Love you, too.
You: See you in the morning.
Me: Okay.

It's so sweet and makes me feel so bad when you do that after I have spanked you. But I love you so much. I long for the night when I can put you and Justin to bed and not have to return to the room to re-cover either of you up or get Mickey or Barney for you (because you have conveniently thrown them in the floor).

You are at that stage where you can say the cutest things. Sometimes you ask me a question and your daddy or Justin answers. You say, "I talkin' (to) Momma!" You also tell me you are a "Precious Heart, and Mommy's Dardin' (Darlin') and Snuggle Bunkin". One day you and Justin were pretending to be a clock. You were lying on your back saying, "Tick Tock, Tick Tock" while Justin was pulling you around in a circle. Your dad and I really got a kick out of that.

I went into the bathroom today to find you sitting on your potty completely naked except for your daddy's Atlanta Braves cap. That would have made a cute picture. And, you always holler for us to "Way Fo me!" when we get out of the car or something. And you love gum, but you ALWAYS swallow it about 5 minutes after you get it.

You are so precious to me. When I was pregnant with you I wondered how I could love another child the way I loved Justin. You showed me how. You both are the most special gifts in my life. I'm sure this baby boy I'm expecting will be right in there too. When he gets here I'm gonna be sure to take time out for you and Justin too. I've heard that the middle child is the neglected one. But that is not going to be the case here. I will love all of my boys and do the best I can to give them equal time.

I love you, Chase.


robin said...

This is such a lovely idea! Could you have ever guessed in 1994 that we'd be so attached to our computers and that there would be something called blogging? Crazy, right?
Thanks so much for stopping by to say hello!

Ryan Ashley Scott@Optimistic Cynicism said...

Writing letters to out children is something every parent could do to help themselves hash things out, look at the big picture, and give our kids a tiny peek into their childhood when they're grown up and ready to see it. Beautiful post.

Thank you for visiting my blog.

Susie said...

That is such a great idea!!

Thanks for stopping by my blog today and leaving such sweet comments! I hope to see you back there soon:-)

Anonymous said...

this is awsome u r best mom ur sons are really lucky... my mom is also same like u she spank me every time and say love u

p.s.thnx for following my blog

East Coast Wahine said...

What a wonderful idea! I wished I had written letters to my children!